Last Updated: 14 October, 2022
The prostate is something most men only read about, but don’t actually know its purpose. When it comes to orgasms, a vast majority of men out there are only used to one: the penile orgasm.
It’s a simple enough method, and one that is quite satisfying. But the male orgasm is very different compared to a female orgasm. Whereas the woman experiences multiple orgasms, men experience an immense high, ejaculate, and its done.
However, what if I was to tell you that there is another way to orgasm, one that is infinitely better than the standard penile orgasm? One, that if done correctly, could leave you writhing with pleasure for minutes?
You guessed it: I’m talking about the prostate massage. Before I start talking about how to massage the prostate, it’s important to understand what it is, how it works, and its general purpose.
What is the Prostate?
The prostate gland is situated between your bladder and your penis. It is the size of a walnut and is located right in front of the rectum. You can’t touch it; you can only massage it via the anal route.
The prostate tends to secrete fluids that are used for nourishing and keeping your sperm safe. When you ejaculate, the prostate is responsible for squeezing your sperm into the urethra, from where it finds its way out.
As you can see in the picture above, the prostate can be reached via the anus. However, you can’t just poke a finger in and get about massaging the prostate.
There’s a method involved, and I’m here to guide you through it.
In the simplest of terms, the prostate massage is a way by which you can empty the fluids in your prostate ducts. Apart from being immensely pleasing, the prostate massage also carries with it a whole lot of benefits.
It is used for clearing the prostatic duct. In fact, there’s an entire prostate massage therapy that is offered by doctors too!
But we aren’t here to talk about medicinal advantages. We are here to talk about a life-changing experience that is going to leave you winded, shivering in pleasure as your body goes through wave after wave of orgasmic intensity.
It starts from your penis, moves all the way up your pelvic muscle and your lower back, and it eventually takes over your entire body.
Prostate milking, known commonly as a prostate massage, is the stimulation of the prostate gland, which ultimately leads to an emphatic orgasm, unlike anything you have ever experienced before.
We, as men, have a very myopic imagination when it comes to orgasms. No matter how the foreplay goes or how much you bang, it all comes down to one thing for us: stroking the penis until ejaculation.
But, in this guide, we are going to focus on something different: the prostate orgasm.
The Pleasure Zone
This little-known pleasure zone can yield some amazing orgasms, if you know how to do prostate play right. The stimulation of the prostate is what triggers the orgasm.
Now, here’s the kicker: you can have an intense orgasm with your prostate without ever touching your cock. As shown in the representation above, reaching the prostate is not an easy task.
I mean, you can lie down on your back and try to poke a finger in your anus but getting it all the way to your prostate is definitely not going to be easy. It’s found 3-4 inches inside, and you have to press towards the front of the body.
The pressing sensation isn’t blocked by the rectal wall, and you will feel the pressure almost immediately. Most men, however, say that it takes firm pressure to stimulate their prostate.
Now, the fun thing to note here is that when you are aroused, the prostate gland begins to swell. It becomes considerably bigger, to the point where you can feel the difference by yourself.
For many, this may be a surprise. A vast majority don’t even know that the prostate can be an erogenous zone. Most have only heard about it due to its association with cancer, or at the doctor during painful exams.
In fact, outside the gay community, many men consider anal play to be a form of sexual taboo. It’s hard to perceive for a straight man that they could get aroused by anal play. It is one of the reasons why so many don’t know about the erotic nature of the prostate.
What a pity.
Personally, when done with a prostate massager and done right, nothing can really beat the sensations of a prostate orgasm. It’s something that gets me horny just thinking about it. The sensation is so unique that I’m having a hard time just wondering how to describe it for you.
The best way to do this is with a prostate massager. I’m a big Aneros fan, and I have covered some of the best Aneros massagers that you can buy right now. You will need one if you want to go on this joyride.
The stimulation from the prostate massage usually radiates from the inside. It starts in a specific area and then expands outwards until it takes over the entire body. For instance, your pelvic area is definitely going to be feeling the sensations.
Think of it this way: your body has several erogenous zones which can be stimulated for heightened arousal and pleasure.
When you stimulate the prostate, it introduces a feeling of unification of all these zones. Some people say that their genitals feel unified.
Now, I can go on and on, but by now, you should have the basic picture. Let me revise it:
- The prostate gland is between your penis and your bladder and can be reached from the anus.
- You need significant stimulation (in most cases) for arousal.
- There’s nothing “gay” about prostate massages. They are fun. Try it!
Step 1: Finding the Prostate
To enjoy a prostate orgasm, you first need to find the prostate. Now, the first thing you need to know is that it’s not just about poking your finger, or your prostate massager, in the right spot.
There’s no “magic button” that you can push in order to feel the pleasure. It’s really not as simple as you might think.
In order to enjoy the prostate orgasm, you have to first locate the right spot.
If you are too deep or too shallow, or at an angle, you won’t be able to enjoy it. Again, don’t expect immediate miracles: it might take a few minutes before your prostate really begins to get aroused when you start stimulating it.
But before you get started, you need to get your mood right. Many men don’t get this, but your mind and body are closely linked. If you are not in a good mood, you won’t get aroused.
To truly feel the pleasure of a prostate orgasm, you need to have a clear mind. For starters, you need to be:
- Be open to the idea of penetration.
- Let go of all negative thoughts and emotions.
- Be receptive of the feelings as they come.
It doesn’t matter if you are doing it with a partner or going at it solo, you have to be ready to explore.
More importantly, you need to go into this with realistic expectations. If you are thinking of achieving the famed Super O on the first try, you are aiming too high.
Expecting too much causes two issues. For starters, it distracts you from the pleasure that you are receiving in the moment. Your mind is so focused on what you want to happen that it doesn’t focus at all on what is happening.
Secondly, it’s easy to be disappointed when you expect too much. If you are going into this with firm expectations of a full body orgasm, you are very likely to be disappointed.
So, by now, you know where the prostate is, what it does, and what you need to do before you get started. But you still don’t know how to get there. Let’s talk about that.
Step 2: Buying a Prostate Massager – The Wonder Toy!
Now, let’s talk about the main thing that you will need to achieve a prostate orgasm: the prostate massager. The prostate massager is a sex toy designed for men.
It is usually made of ABS plastic or silicone and is roughly between 3-4.5 inches in length. That’s decent enough to reach the prostate in most types of anuses.
I’m a big Aneros fan, so I’ll be referring to them throughout this review. Aneros prostate massagers are some of the best in the market and buying an Aneros is definitely a wise choice if you want hours of fun.
If you are a big guy, you should go for the Aneros Vice 2. If you don’t want something overly big in your ass, go for the MGX Syn Trident. They are both fantastic Aneros massagers and well worth the money you pay.
One more thing. You need lube. Lots of it.
Take it from someone with considerable experience in anal play; there’s just no alternate for lube. Even if you are doing it with a partner and think that saliva will do the trick, you should always have a bottle of lube handy.
In order to truly get into the experience, you don’t need to have to worry about friction caused by the motions as your Aneros moves in and out.
I cannot stress this enough: always buy lube and use it generously with your Aneros.
Once you have everything, it’s time to move to the next step.
Step 3: Setting the Scene
So, you have your Aneros, you have your lube, you have cleared your mind, and you are ready to begin. Well done! Now, it’s time to set the scene.
Personally, I always prefer getting everything ready before I get into anal play, because I really hate distractions when I’m well into it. You need focus to have a good prostate orgasm, and I love getting into the whole thing.
First off, I heartily recommend that you use an enema to purge your anus thoroughly. This is going to prevent any nasty surprises just when you are getting into it.
Anal preparation is more important than you think.
Use a douche or an enema to make sure that you are ready to get into it. It’s important to make sure that you keep things hygienic down there.
If you want, you can even use gloves, or put on a condom on your Aneros. Again, it’s all about doing what feels right to you. All the advice in the world won’t mean anything if you have these petty things stuck in the back of your mind.
Make sure you have at least two hours of free time, without distractions. This is quite different to your standard masturbation routine, so it’s best to have two hours at least.
Make sure you keep essential things within arm’s reach: your towels, the Aneros, the lube, and a bowl of water. Now, let’s talk about setting the scene.
If you want, you can turn off the lights. Some people, including me, like to have some porn playing in the background. I have a TV in my bedroom, and I often play some porn to get in the mood.
Once my dick starts getting up, I know I am ready for it.
You can do anything you want to get in the mood.
The aim is to just relax and let your body go with the flow.
Step 4: Finding the Right Position
There are a whole bunch of positions that you can try. Unlike most sex toys that you might have read about, Aneros toys don’t require you to use your hands when stimulating the prostate.
The shape of Aneros massagers is such that you just have to get it past the first knob, and the rest of it will be sucked in automatically. There are a bunch of different ways to insert the Aneros inside. Let me share a few.
Lie on One Side with One Leg Up
This is fairly simple. You have to lie on one side and bring one knee up to your chest. Using your free hand at the top, you can then gently insert the Aneros inside and let it work its magic.
Lie on Your Back with One Leg Up
You can lie on your back, then take one leg up. Then, using one of your hands, just bring the Aneros from either side and gently insert it.
Lie on Your Chest and Extend Either Leg
This one requires a bit of expertise when done solo, but you can have a lot of fun in this position with a partner. Think doggystyle, but you can lay down on the bed with your chest resting against the mattress.
Then, just extend one leg to the side, and slowly insert the Aneros inside.
These are the three most popular positions, and I highly recommend that you start with either one of these.
Step 5: Inserting the Aneros
Now, this is the important part. Before you insert your Aneros, you have to lube it up. I recommend lubing up the prostate massager and putting some on your anus as well.
If this is the first time you are inserting something in your ass, be slow and gentle. There’s no reason to hurry about this. Your sphincter is probably going to pucker up the first time you try to insert something.
It’s only natural. Nothing to worry about.
You can massage the outer rim of your anus to get it to relax. Once it does, slowly insert your Aneros. As the tip goes in and the Aneros reaches up till the first bump, you will notice the sphincter relaxing, and the full shaft will go in.
Now, once you are inside, it’s time to start feeling the prostate. You can refer to the photo above in order to get a basic idea about where to look for it.
When your Aneros presses against the prostate, you will feel something like a golf ball pressing back. Once you have found the prostate, it’s time to begin!
Step 6: Massaging the Prostate
Now, I’m assuming that all this time, you have also been stroking your penis in order to get aroused. That’s well and good, but this is the time when you need to shift your attention.
Remember, you don’t want to ejaculate by stimulating the penis. Doing this will ruin your experience, so it’s best not to rush into it. We are here for greater pleasure, after all.
Let go of the Aneros massager and relax a bit. remember to take deep breaths. And, as you do, clench and unclench your pelvic muscles. You will notice your Aneros working on your prostate by itself.
The Aneros massager will automatically move in a rhythmic back and forth motion as you clench and unclench your muscles. This is the entire concept behind hands-free pleasure.
As you continue with the motions, you will soon enter a rhythmical trance, and your prostate will continue to engorge. Now, there are ways to enhance this pleasure as well.
Step 7: Massage the Perineum
To truly take things to the next level, you should massage your perineum simultaneously with your prostate. The best part? Aneros massagers do that for you without any issue.
Almost all of the Aneros massagers come with two tabs: the Kundalini and the Perineum tab. When properly inserted, these tabs will automatically rest on your perineum and the base of your spine, and massage them as it moves in and out.
The perineum is situated behind your balls, and just a bit in front of the asshole. It’s right between your legs.
Don’t believe the erotic potential in this area? Just gently run a finger on it. Caress it, and you’ll feel an instant jolt.
In fact, your prostate gland is just a couple of inches behind this region. Essentially, by applying pressure on two different spots, you are massaging the prostate from multiple angles.
Trust me, this feels intense.
Now, because the toy is completely hands-free, you can also simultaneously stroke your cock, or do whatever you like. In fact, once you get used to the sensations, you can even wear your Aneros as you get to work on your partner.
The Aneros will completely change the way you have sex with your partner.
In some cases, you will be tempted to use your hands, but I’d always recommend using your PC muscles, because it gets the tissue working, and essentially enhances your state of arousal.
The Final Step: Climax!
With all of this buildup and the intensity of the sensations that you might be experiencing, it’s time to climax. This is fairly simple. As you continue clenching your PC muscles and changing the rhythm, you will notice a powerful sensation.
It’s very similar to an orgasm, but it’s much more powerful.
Don’t fight it, let it come to you. With the passage of time, this sensation will build up considerably, until eventually, you can let loose.
This, my friends, is the Super O.
In many cases, you will orgasm without any ejaculation. It’s more powerful, more intense, and so much more pleasurable than a regular orgasm. This is the super orgasm!
Unlike your conventional orgasm, the Super O can last for several minutes at a time. Your body will be overcome with wave after wave of intense pleasure.
Let me reiterate, you might not get to the Super O in the first try. And that’s completely okay. There’s no need to put pressure on yourself or go extra hard.
Always let yourself relax first before you attempt a prostate massage. And, when you are done, it’s best to thoroughly clean yourself, and your prostate massager for use at a later time.
It might take a few tries, but it will definitely come to you!